Kitchen Table Kibitzing ~ 4.7.25

Apr 08, 2025

I can’t figure out where my spoons are going. I used to think the garbage disposal ate them but for the past 20 years I haven’t had a garbage disposal.

That’s kind of like my socks; I used to think the washer or most likely the dryer ate them. When I started wearing thorlos, very expensive socks, I started washing them in lingerie bags and hanging them to dry. Now I think they’re getting lost before I put them in the washer.

But my spoons? Yeah, I don’t know.

So, the TV show of the week is Love on the Spectrum. I had a hard time watching it at first because I am on the spectrum, but I got over that. Now, in season 3, I think some of these guys can’t find love because they are assholes, not because they are autistic.

One guy can’t find a girl who talks enough. Probably because he doesn’t shut up and let them. One guy is just straight up mean, his fake smile doesn’t fool me.

He meets a girl for the first time, she shows up in heels, and he goes off about not understanding women who wear heels and how dumb it is.

I think heels are dumb too, but I don’t tell that to women wearing heels.

I have no movie of the week; I have a book instead. I’ve got calling out, as in fuck off, down to a science so I’m trying this:

Calling In: How to Start Making Change with Those You'd Rather Cancel by Loretta J Ross.

Calling In is at once a handbook, a manifesto, and a memoir—because the power of Loretta Ross’s message comes from who she is and what she’s lived through. She’s a Black woman who’s deprogrammed white supremacists, a survivor who’s taught convicted rapists the principles of feminism. With stories from her five remarkable decades in activism, she vividly illustrates why calling people in—inviting them into conversation instead of conflict by focusing on your shared values over a desire for punishment—is the more strategic choice if you want to make real change. And she shows you how to do so, whether in the workplace, on a college campus, or in your living room.

David Bowie’s daughter Lexi Jones just released an album Xandri.